When I received an A– on a college paper, I scheduled a meeting with my teaching assistant to discuss how I could improve. I wasn’t upset about the grade. I genuinely wanted to know what separated an A– paper from an A paper.
After listening to my questions, she smiled and reassured me.
“As someone who speaks English as a second language,” she said, “this is already an impressive paper. You should be very proud of yourself!”
She meant it as encouragement. Her tone was warm, her kindness unmistakable. But I walked away feeling strangely defeated.